(Editor's Note: This blog was written a few days prior to the release of the Dobbs v. Jackson Supreme Court decision.)
“I wouldn't be a father without abortion.”
Yes. You read that sentence correctly.
Andrew, a bartender from Washington, made that astute comment to NBC’s Today, as they ran an article over Father’s Day weekend highlighting - get this - how abortion “helped [fathers] become the fathers they are today.”
Danielle Campoamor, reporter for TODAY Parents, highlighted eight dads who responded to a social media inquiry “asking fathers to share how abortion shaped their lives. (Only first names were given)
The comments, reasoning, and justification offered were striking, and I want to point out a few of them, but first, just consider again Andrew’s comment:
“I wouldn’t be a father without abortion.” Let that claim sink in.
First of all, Andrew, you were already a father “without abortion.” Like it or not, the moment the child you helped create was conceived, you became a father.
Furthermore, “without abortion,” the child you eliminated would have been born, and even by the most rabid leftists’ definition, at that point, you would have most certainly been a father.
To claim, “I wouldn’t be a father without abortion” has to be one of the most ludicrous statements I’ve ever heard.
Andrew’s ignorance and selfishness are palpable. That seems to be a common theme in many of the other statements as well.
Simon claimed he and his wife “had an unplanned pregnancy that we decided to abort. It wasn’t an easy decision, but we weren’t remotely ready to have the family we knew we eventually wanted.” They did go on to have a child years later, but Simon assures, were it not for their abortion, “I wouldn’t be the father I am able to be today for our amazing 2-year-old child.”
Gee, I wonder how many fathers of multiple children out there could have been even better fathers if they had just gotten rid of a few before they were born.
Allen is a father of two, ages seven and four. He says that “raising children in New York is challenging, expensive and all-consuming. Having two children is the family we wanted.” Apparently, another child would have been too much to handle, so when Allen’s wife conceived again, they aborted. “Together, we decided to terminate the pregnancy,” Allen said. “I was so grateful. It's hard to imagine how we'd have fit the pieces together with a third child.”
I feel you, Allen. For every child we’ve added to our family, the less time I’m able to spend on myself. I used to spend ridiculous amounts of time working, hunting, exercising, and doing other hobbies. Now I have to spend that time with my five boys. What a drag.
Peter, from Massachusetts, has been a part of two abortions. The first one was not with his wife, but that abortion “enabled me to gain experiences — personal and professional — that I would not have otherwise been able to gain,” Peter said. Plus, without that abortion, “I would not have found my wife.”
Peter’s second abortion came more recently. Eliminating that baby, according to Peter, “has allowed me to be a better father. The foreseeable exhaustion and resentment and discord that would have come with a second child we weren’t ready for would have come at the detriment to not only me and my wife but my existing child as well.”
Wow. I’ve been thinking so backward about this whole idea of having children. Each time I’ve gotten the news another was on the way, my mind immediately went to all the pleasant thoughts and the joys that bringing a little human into the world brings. I didn’t know I was supposed to focus on the exhaustion and detriment children would bring to our family.
You can read the rest of the comments for yourself if you desire here. They are equally as unimpressive and unintelligent.
A few thoughts come to mind.
First, I’m proud to see that fathers are being brought into the conversation surrounding the termination of a child. Far too many fathers have lost their children unknowingly and unwillingly to abortion. The child is just as much theirs as the mothers, and they should have a say as well.
I am a bit confused though because I don’t think that was the point of Today’s article. In fact, including men in the conversation goes against conventional leftist dogma. I’m pretty sure one of their tag lines is “no uterus, no opinion.” By that standard, what these men have to say or think shouldn’t matter.
So which is it Today? Do men’s voices matter, or not? For leftists and the pro-choice crowd, men’s voices only matter when it fits the narrative.
Secondly, the article did a fabulous job highlighting the pitiful state of manhood in this country. Once upon a time in this great nation men stepped up to responsibility, rather than run from it. America did produce “the greatest generation,” after all – courageous men who prevented us from being taken over by Japan and/or Germany.
By their own volition, the men in the article created a responsibility. Instead of being a man, however, and accepting that responsibility, they got rid of it so they wouldn’t be forced to deal with it.
Finally, how out of touch with reality must one be to celebrate Father’s Day, by highlighting fathers who chose to kill their own children? I’m sure those children would have loved the opportunity to celebrate Father’s Day, but they never had a chance.
As a father, I’m sickened by these men who, in an oxymoronic way, extol the virtue of their decision under the pretense that it was somehow selfless and the best for all involved.
My wife and I are blessed with five wonderful boys. We will forever be grateful to God for blessing us with them, while simultaneously we will feel a void left by multiple miscarriages along the way.
I was privileged to hold one of those babies in my hand. At only seven weeks gestation, the baby had eyes, hands, feet, and ears.
I can’t imagine having willingly snuffed out that precious life.
As the evil around us anticipates the potential overturning of Roe v Wade, they are pulling out all the stops. Whether the decision has been handed down by the time you read this or not, the battle won’t stop.
Abortion is their sacred cow, allowing for the shedding of innocent blood on the altar, a sacrifice deemed acceptable for the sake of immorality, convenience, and selfishness.
As believers, may we continue to pray for the abolition of the atrocity that is abortion.
